Parallel parenting has existed as an option for parents going through divorce. It provides stability to children of divorce while also allowing parents to get the distance they may need from one another in the direct aftermath of a split.
What is parallel parenting exactly, and how does it work?
How does parallel parenting work?
Psychology Today looks into the custody option called parallel parenting. This option allows for parents to work together to raise their children without actually having direct contact with one another. In essence, they parent “parallel” to one another, rather than their paths crossing.
Parallel parenting accomplishes this by limiting the type of contact parents can have with one another. Under this type of parenting, they cannot come in direct contact with each other or speak to each other over the phone. Instead, they must only communicate through text or written word.
They may choose the form of written contact they prefer and can utilize many types at the same time. This includes emails, text messages, private messages or even letters or notes written by hand.
How it helps parents
This allows parents to cut down on the opportunity for arguments. It is easy to say or do something one regrets in the heat of the moment. However, having to write it out generally takes some of the spontaneity out of the situation and makes it easier to think before speaking.
It also allows both parents to continue playing an active role in their child’s life, which many experts state is one of the best things to do for a child of divorce. In short, it is fairly close to a win-win situation for everyone involved.