When divorce splits a family apart, your children are likely to feel the blow most heavily. From one parent moving out to child custody matters, their lives will change drastically. Web MD notes that when children feel conflicted about loyalty issues concerning one or both parents, it could interrupt their normal emotional development.
You can help your children avoid these problems by taking a few actions before, during and after the divorce and foster a healthy emotional environment for them, no matter which parent they reside with.
You may feel the urge to overshare with your kids once they learn about the divorce, whether you feel guilty or anxious to keep them in the loop as much as possible. However, this is often detrimental to children of divorced parents, who often become involved in adult matters that are beyond their understanding, such as family finances. While communicating effectively with your children can help them feel secure, keep in mind they often cannot process mature topics.
Maintain a schedule
Children function best when their parents set consistent rules, boundaries and schedules. Maintaining a schedule can help your children feel a greater sense of stability, even during the most difficult portions of the divorce. If you and your ex-spouse decide to co-parent, do your best to cooperate and agree upon a schedule that works for both of you and your children, especially once the courts make decisions about custody.
If you and your ex-spouse have trouble communicating, then family therapy sessions may help you find common ground when it comes to parenting your children during and after the divorce. The court may also assist you with keeping your children’s best interests first and foremost during this difficult time.