Talking to your children about divorce is emotionally challenging. Even when the decision is in the best interest of your family, your kids are bound to feel sad and angry about the situation.
That is why parents must take the right steps when talking to children about divorce. Here are a few essential tips to employ to make the conversation as supportive as possible.
Do not blame your ex-spouse
Resentment and hurt feelings are unavoidable during divorce. However, you must make an effort to shield your children from these issues to lessen the negative impact on them. Never speak ill in front of your kids when it comes to your former spouse, even if you have justification for your statement. Additionally, never attempt to put your kids in the middle or use them as a bargaining tool when working out the divorce agreement.
Form a united front
Getting a divorce does not mean that you and your ex will no longer parent together. Accordingly, it is best that you provide news of the split in the presence of your former spouse. Doing so really drives home the message that your collective love and affection towards your children will not change, no matter what happens to the marriage. Try to work past the hurt feelings and resentment to ensure you continue to meet the emotional needs of your kids.
Provide details about practical changes
You do not need to go into great detail about how the end of your marriage occurred. However, you should provide as much information as possible to your children regarding changing homes or schools. If you are not sure what the future holds, be honest about your lack of knowledge. Provide reassurance that you will support your children through these changes, regardless of what they entail.
No matter how effectively you broach the subject, your children may still experience a range of bad emotions afterward. Give them time to heal and make sure you are fully available to provide emotional support and answer questions.